Can We Write About This?

Can we write about this? Men, Sex & Feelings

Why are there no erotic memoirs written by straight men? Is there a contradiction in men being asked to be more emotionally vulnerable whilst taking up less space? Why are virtually all the leading podcasts dealing with sexuality hosted by women? And are there invisible boundaries dictating what men can and can’t say when writing about their deepest desires, most intimate experiences and heartfelt emotions?

Championing threesomes as expansive relationships, Tony Pletts’ erotic memoir Love to the Power of Three was described as; “brilliantly written, surprisingly moving and worthy of publication” by a publishing house that also decided, “they couldn’t represent anything of this kind coming from the voice of a man at the moment”. If correct, what does this say about the fractious times we live in? Exploring volatile landscapes, Tony Pletts engages in explicit, challenging and positive adult conversations with esteemed authors, feminist thinkers and respected commentators from the world of Conscious Sexuality.

“Tony Pletts bravely launches a series of podcasts on why men don’t, won’t, can’t write about sex. Cutting edge stuff as he talks to women who de write about sex.”
Monique Roffey on Twitter 02/08/2022

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The Podcasts

All episodes can be listened to on Podbean here

Episode 1 features Lucy-Anne Holmes, activist responsible for the campaign that forced The Sun to take down Page Three and award-winning author of the erotic memoir Don’t Hold My Head Down.

Episode 2 features Monique Roffey, 2021 Costa winner for The Mermaid of Black Conch and author of the erotic memoir With the Kisses of His Mouth that first made me want to write about my emotional and sexual experiences with honesty and vulnerability.

Episode 3 features Sarah Pletts in a conversation about what it’s like to be the central character in an erotic memoir, discussions about objectification and her writing of a poem to accompany every chapter.

Series produced by Nicholas McInerny, writer and Podcaster responsible for Rainbow Dads.

All episodes of Can We Write About This? Men, Sex & Feelings include readings from Love to the Power of Three, some of which are extremely explicit.

Shots of Lucy & Monique during recording, me talking on the opening night and publicity.